This word of correction from a pastor (given almost 400 years ago) is very timely. If you are married, you will do well to keep it. I have had to help many couples through the pain that comes from ignoring it. Happily, I have known the blessing of keeping it in my own marriage.
Also you must be careful to guard the honour of one another. You must not divulge, but conceal, the failings of each other; The reputation of each other must be as dear to you as your own. It is a sinful and unfaithful practice of many, both husbands and wives, who among their friends are discussing the faults of each other, which they are required in tenderness to cover up. Many peevish persons will aggravate all the faults of their spouse behind their backs.
The Mutual Duties Of Husbands And Wives
Towards Each Other
By Richard Baxter (1615-1691)
I have a loyal wife.
This is a blessing beyond description to me.
I can count on her. Whether I am there or not, she will cover me. She has always got my back.
I am not married to a “peevish person” who aggravates my faults behind my back.
For this, I am very thankful.